Personalization
Negative Thought:
Blaming yourself for events outside your control.
Example:
Problem: A colleague didn’t invite you to an after-work gathering.
Negative Thinking: "They didn’t invite me because they don’t like me. I must have done something wrong."
Mind Hack: Shift Responsibility—Ask yourself, "Could there be other reasons? Maybe they thought I was busy or assumed I wouldn’t be interested."
Shift Responsibility
: Ask, "Is this really my fault, or are there other factors at play?" Identify external causes.
Practice Self-Kindness:
Write down why you are not to blame, and give yourself grace.
Objective Observer:
Imagine you are an outsider looking in. Would you still hold yourself responsible from that viewpoint?